It is so easy to feel like a failure as a new mum – it’s actually one of the most common feelings after giving birth. And this is especially true when it comes to breastfeeding, because it’s not all what it’s cracked up to be (in fact sometimes it’s very cracked, ouch!).
This week we interviewed mum Rochelle, from the Central Coast, who has a 5 and a half-month-old bub called Aurora. She tells us all about her own dealings with failure and her love of breastfeeding after she got the hang of it.
Tell us a little about your bub and yourself!
Aurora loves to play with toys and is extremely observant of everything that goes on around her. She is very active and rolls around on the floor challenging her body to move in different directions reaching for toys. Aurora loves sitting and playing with her abacus and loves to chew on EVERYTHING, she needs her cuddles and is always happy when she is with her mummy or daddy. I am a stay at home mum who focuses on natural attachment based parenting. As a parent I try to be as loving and mindful of Aurora’s need as I can be, I will do absolutely anything to make her laugh and smile, she is my pure joy in life. Everything I do is for her wellbeing and hope that she grows up to be a happy strong woman.
Rochelle tells us about her experience with feeding:
I decided to go with Breastfeeding, it is the most natural for the mother and baby. It also promotes incredible bonding between mother and baby. For me bottle feeding was not an option if I was able to breastfeed, I have nothing against bottle feeding but breastfeeding is something I value and enjoy.
Breastfeeding at first was easy, she latched on straight after giving birth but as time went on it got progressively more difficult. As a new mum I was unsure of how to help her latch or correctly which resulted in sore cracked nipples and feelings of failure as a mother because I was ready to give up breastfeeding. Eventually, we got the correct latch and with time and patience feeding got easier and less painful. I didn’t expect feeding to be hard at all, everyone in my family breastfed easily without any trouble, so it was quite a shock when I realised breastfeeding is literally an art form, there is a precise way that a baby has to feed for it to not be painful. If I could recommend anything, it would be to make sure your babies latch is correct every single time you feed (their mouth should be open wide when they latch), as stressful as it may be when you have a screaming baby, it is SOO important and makes so much difference.
Do you think there are enough resources out there for new mothers?
I personally think there are a lot of resources out there for mothers but there definitely could be more support networks set up for new mothers that are not so structured and advocate natural parenting. I had a great experience with the Australian Breastfeeding Association hotline and my local child and health nurses, who helped me a lot with breastfeeding and my mental health after giving birth as well as tips on looking after Aurora. I (also) had the support of my Nan and mother to help me learn and look after me in the early fragile stages after giving birth.
As we can see, another inspirational experience shared here. It just goes to show how important it is to do some research first and make the decision that is right for you. If you would like some more information, you can have a look at our other posts about the benefits of breastfeeding and bottle-feeding.
If you would like to connect with Rochelle, you can find her on Instagram @rochelle_and_rora.
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